Expose
yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power and the fear of
freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free. –Jim Morrison
If you want success in life, you have to overcome
your fears. Unless and until you take risks, you can’t shed your inhibitions. You
cannot let fear rule your life. The person who has never taken any risks in
life because of fear has limited himself from every great achievement he was capable
of achieving. Fear is another name of restricting your abilities to reach its highest
potential.
Like every other person, I also had plenty of fears
in my life, some of which I have successfully overcome and some of which I am
trying to conquer every single day. In order to conquer fear, first I had to
tell myself repeatedly that the biggest enemy that I have in this world is none
other than my fear. I cannot let my enemy defeat me each day, which is leaving
me restricted in a certain boundary and crippling my abilities slowly yet
steadily.
Today when I look back in life, I feel happy about all
the risks that I took. Some of the risks did not yield results but they taught
me valuable lessons whereas some risks made me a winner. In both the cases, I
was successful in shedding my fear and inhibitions. I can remember two
incidents clearly when I took a risk, conquered my fear and emerged victorious.
During
my high school days, I was quite introvert and shy. I had a tremendous stage
fear. I was afraid of socializing with people and addressing a large audience
was something I was extremely scared of. The mere thought of it used to give me
jitters. I used to tell myself everyday that I have to get rid of this fear or else
I would always be a loser my entire life. I was determined that I would not
take this attitude of mine to my college.
I remember that when I was in the first
year of college, we had a seminar on a topic associated with Microbiology (Well,
that was my honors subject). The topic was most probably about AIDS as it was
the 1st of December (World AIDS day).
One of the participants of the seminar
who was from my class was absent. Since my class performance was good, my
faculty pleaded me to speak for a few minutes on the topic so that the gap of
the participant who was absent could be filled. I was numb for a minute as I
knew the intensity of my stage fear but I did not want to show them how scared I was. I had never dared to participate in any event
in my entire high school life and here, I am told to give an impromptu speech
in a seminar about AIDS. I heaved a sigh
and closed my eyes for a few seconds.
I remembered how I promised myself that I
won’t take my stage-fearing attitude to my college life. It was not a speech
that I had to give in a seminar filled with thousands of students and plenty of
teachers. It was a challenging moment for me where I had to prove myself to my
own self. I assumed that the entire audience sitting in the seminar hall has
converted to statues. I put on a faint confident smile on my lips and started
speaking about all I knew about the topic. I spoke non-stop without caring
anything about the world and when I stopped, I was greeted with the welcoming
sound of claps. That day, in fact in those few minutes in the year 2008, my
life changed as I conquered one of the biggest fears of my life.
After that day, I had given plenty of speeches at
seminars and in my book launches. I have been part of so many cultural
functions where I sang, danced, debated confidently. The stage fear or the fear
of so many people judging me altogether has totally vanished. Just a few
moments of courage actually changed my life.
When
I was writing my first book “Walking in the streets of love and destiny” in
2011, I was writing it quite aimlessly. Writing a book that time has been just
a thing on my bucket list that I wanted to do. Many people told me that I won’t
get a publisher and that I was just wasting my time. When I was in the middle
of it, I thought to quit writing. The fear of failure (not getting a publisher)
was constantly distracting me from completing writing the book. I conquered
that fear of failure somehow and completed writing the book. I got a publisher
within three months and became a published author. However I feel that my
achievement in conquering this fear was not only limited to being a published
author; it was in realizing the passion of my life. The thing which I thought
was just a mere hobby actually turned out to be something that gives me a beautiful reason to live. It placates and
appeases my soul.
Taking the risk of writing a book without knowing
anything about the publishing industry or any author indeed rewarded me well.
That time, I was also not a blogger and I hardly knew anything about the
nuances of writing. I only participated in a few creative writing contests in
my school and that’s it. This risk made me an author and helped me realize the
purpose of my life. It completely changed my life as now I can’t think of my
life without writing.
As a content developer by profession, author by
passion and blogger by choice, all I do the whole day is write and write.
Unless I write at least 4k words, my day doesn’t get complete. And all this
became possible because of that risk.
It made me realize my utter compulsion, passion, necessity and flair for
writing.
Do
the thing you fear, and continue to do so…This is the quickest and surest way
of all victory over fear. - Dale Carnegie
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This post is written for Indiblogger and Mountain
Dew initiative “Rise Above Fear!” campaign.
di you made the point so clear yea one has to get rid of fear n move towards goal. :) keep writing :)
ReplyDeleteExactly Sachin :) Thanks for stopping by.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much Sisir :)
ReplyDeleteWonderful article, Purba. Fear is the only obstacle which keeps us from reaching the goals.
ReplyDeleteIt is great how you overcame your fears and ventured towards success. Best wishes. :)